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Showing posts with label pregnancy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label pregnancy. Show all posts

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

33 Weeks and Counting...







  • How far along: 33 Weeks



  • Total Weight Gained: 20 lbs 



  • Sleep: I
    wake up several times a night to pee. And laying down is extremely uncomfortable. But it could be worse.



  • Best Moment of the Week:  Grady's "Sprinkle" last week and getting to see him on an ultrasound this week! And also just how Griffin is constantly talking to Grady through my belly. Precious. 



  • Movement: Yep. Anytime I sit or lay down he moves and moves. Must feel cramped.     



  • Food Cravings: N/A  



  • Food Aversions: N/A



  • Symptoms: Lots of pelvic pain, cant breathe, uncomfortable to sit on soft surfaces, cant bend over, etc etc... 



  • What I miss: Energy, sleep and lack of pain.



  • What I'm looking forward to: Finishing up the nursery, and seeing Griffin be a big brother. He is gonna rock at it.  



  • Other news: We got to see Grady in an ultrasound yesterday. Dr.Gass wanted to check in on how big he is now, since he measured big at the 20 week ultrasound. They are estimating he weighs 6.1lbs now, which is the 98th percentile. Please note that ultrasounds are notorious for being off by a few pounds. But I do feel like he is larger than Griffin so far. He was sleeping and wouldnt budge during the ultrasound, so we only got two pictures. The first shows his mouth and nostrils, and an arm covering his forehead. The second shows the hair on his head. Its a bunch. He looks like he has a toupee on!  Ha!  We decided to do a repeat c-section this go around. It was a tough call, but we feel best about this choice. Oh and I got my posh pusher (hospital gown) and grady and griffins matching shirts last week. So cute!!































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Saturday, July 5, 2014

22 Weeks and Counting...

• How far along: 22 Weeks

• Total Weight Gained: 6 lbs 

• Sleep: Thanks to some of my wonderful friends, I got two pregnancy wedges and that has helped quite a bit with comfort. Griffin has been waking in the middle of the night with all the housing changes, so I am pretty tired and wished I could get more sleep though! 

• Best Moment of the Week(s): Griffin has been "interacting" with "his baby" this week. He has been poking the baby, hugging him, and tickling him. Seems to really be getting excited!   

• Movement: Yep. Little taps and flips anytime I have to bend forward or scrunch the baby. And as soon as I lay down moving like crazy! Still can't feel it from the outside yet. 

• Symptoms: Tired. Back pain. Heartburn. Shortness of breath. 

• What I miss: The lack of back pain, and energy! Good nights sleep! 

• What I'm looking forward to: Picking out a name, choosing nursery stuff, getting baby things together.

• Other news: We moved out of our house the past two weeks, which was super exhausting for a preggo. And we closed on the new house and should move in sometime in the next two or three weeks, so I am sure that will be exhausting too! Ha! 


Some photo shoot outtakes for your enjoyment... 


Griffin wanted to put his booty on the baby! Ha

And a fun belly shot with Hav, while we are both at 22 weeks! 


Friday, June 13, 2014

19 Weeks and Counting... It's a BOY!

  • How far along: 19 Weeks
  • Total Weight Gained: 
  • Sleep: Well, I traveled to Utah for Kristen's wedding and we probably slept a total of 10-15 hours over the course of 3 days. No good! I was one tired momma!! Griffin also had one of his bad weeks this week, so we had two very long nights of no sleep. But last night was better!! 
  • Best Moment of the Week(s): Found out the gender and got to see our little alien on the screen! Big Brother cried (more on that in a moment), so that made it a bit sad.  
  • Movement: I have felt a few small taps here and there, but nothing really major yet. 
  • Symptoms: TIRED! Very large midsection :-) Back pain, ugh!  
  • What I miss: The lack of back pain, and energy! 
  • What I'm looking forward to: Picking out a name, choosing nursery stuff, getting baby things together.
  • Other news:  The baby is apparently in the 86th percentile for size right now! Which for my small stature is really large. But that could even out of course. But I guess that expalins my huge baby bump already! Ha!
Well, we went and found out the gender this past Tuesday (a week early because of youth camp), and Baby #2 is a BOY! Griffin came with us to the ultrasound and did great being still in the room. He did say "mommy, this is taking forever!" a few times! haha!  


He actually acted happy about it being a boy in the ultrasound room, which we were surprised about. He has said he wanted a girl from day one. But as soon as we got out into the lobby, he crawled under a chair and started bawling bc he wanted a girl! It was so sweet and very sad actually. It made me cry! We were going to try some cute gender revel thing with balloons, but with him so sad we just decided to revel by sending out his sad video.


Definitely a boy :-)

By the time we got him from school later that afternoon, he was in much better spirits! He said a boy was good. We will see how long that lasts! We got silly taking some belly pictures!
- Mrs.Pate via my iPhone

Wednesday, June 4, 2014

18 Weeks and Counting....

  • How far along: 18 Weeks
  • Total Weight Gained: 2 lbs (lost a pound?)
  • Sleep: This week has been pretty great in that department. 
  • Best Moment of the Week(s): We are under contract on our current house and the new house!  
  • Movement: Not yet. I have been too tired to pay much attention though :-)
  • Food Cravings: Just food in general- and mostly bad food :-)
  • Food Aversions: None this week. 
  • Morning Sickness: Nope but the gag reflex every time I sneeze or cough is still going strong :-( ick!
  • Symptoms: Tiredness (but a little better this week I think), round ligament pain, major shortness of breath.
  • What I miss: The absence of  energy. 
  • What I'm looking forward to: June 10th we find out gender! Then all the fun stuff that happens after you know the gender (nursery, name etc). 
  • Other news: So excited and a little overwhelmed about the upcoming housing changes!  
Comparison Shots: 

Baby Pate #2
 and Baby Pate #1 (aka Griffin)
 

    Wednesday, May 28, 2014

    17 Weeks and Counting...

    • How far along: 17 Weeks
    • Total Weight Gained: 3 lbs
    • Sleep: I need some! Griffin has decided to wake several times over the last two nights.... yawn!
    • Best Moment of the Week(s): I was telling Griffin that we were going to go see a friends new baby, and he got upset and yelled "no, I want to see our baby!" haha! Sorry buddy- we got a long way to go.
    • Movement: Nope. I am not the most observant though. Last time around I would notice when I laid down, but now I am asleep as soon as a lay down so who knows?
    • Food Cravings: Salmon this week. I have wanted it a bunch lately. But thats not really out of the ordinary.
    • Food Aversions: None this week.
    • Morning Sickness: Still gagging when I sneeze or cough (more so in the mornings). Gross.
    • Symptoms:Very tried. Back pain. Shortness of breath.
    • What I miss: ENERGY!!
    • What I'm looking forward to: June 10th when we find out the gender! Picking out a name.
    • Other news: Griffin will now tell you that the baby is not coming until November.... so if you say the baby is in my belly he will say "no, not until November!" Ha! Such a hard concept to get. We found out Haven and Bro are having a girl this week, which made Griffin super happy. He still really wants us to have a girl too... so we shall see.
    • Names: We havent done a ton of talking about names this time around. I have thrown out lots of ideas and Mr.Pate has disliked almost all of them. Ha! I would just rather wait until we know the gender and then start brainstorming this time.
    And for comparison, 17 weeks with Baby #2...
    Versus 17 weeks with Griffin...
    If it keeps up, I may not be able to walk by the end of this! haha!

    - Mrs.Pate via my iPhone

    Monday, May 12, 2014

    15 Weeks and Counting...



    • How far along: 15 Weeks
    • Total Weight Gained: 2 lbs
    • Sleep: My child has decided to sleep awesome all week- so I am actually getting great sleep. 
    • Best Moment of the Week(s): Having enough energy to actually finish all the laundry AND put it away! First time we have started the week without clothes hanging on our couch in months! haha!
    • Movement: Too early, I still cant feel anything. But it is getting close! 
    • Food Cravings: Not really. 
    • Food Aversions: Nothing specific. 
    • Morning Sickness: Just a really bad gag reflex... everytime I sneeze I gag. Ick. 
    • Symptoms: Tiredness and gagging so far.
    • What I miss:  ENERGY! And the ability to swallow a pill without gagging horribly. And coffee.
    • What I'm looking forward to: Picking a name, feeling the baby move, the gender ultrasound. 
    • Other news: Oh Griffin is still really wanting a girl and wants to name her "Grififi"...  
    And for comparison...

    15 Weeks with Griffin
    15 Weeks with Baby Pate #2 




    Tuesday, May 6, 2014

    14 Weeks and Counting...



    • How far along: 14 Weeks
    • Total Weight Gained: 1 lb (though this time around I started out at what I finished at with Griffin :-( so I am hoping I do not gain much)
    • Maternity Clothes: Ugh, this time around I had to start wearing maternity pants at like 8 weeks!! Seriously! My belly popped out so fast. So all maternity pants and some tops now. 
    • Sleep:  Still sleeping on my belly and loving every minute of it!
    • Best Moment of the Week(s): Griffin walking into daycare and asking if a little baby was our baby. Ha! He is so excited. Also, I announced on facebook and got so much love and excitement!
    • Movement: Too early, I still cant feel anything.  
    • Food Cravings: Nope. 
    • Food Aversions: Not specifics really, but see below. 
    • Morning Sickness: Yes. I have been sick quite a bit more this time around. No fun. My gag reflex is on hyper-drive and smells really get to me.
    • Symptoms: Major fatigue. I have been soooo soo tired. Shortness of breath when I do anything slightly taxing. 
    • What I miss: Not being tired and having energy to play with my sona nd stay up with my husband. I feel like I am wasting my time.  
    • What I'm looking forward to: A second baby!!! Seeing Griffin be a big brother! 
    And for a comparison from last time to this time, just so you can see how crazy my stomach is this time... 
     With Griffin...
    With Baby Pate #2 (aka alien baby)...

    Saturday, July 16, 2011

    Keepin it Real with How I am Dealing...

    Many people have said they cant believe how patient I am being, etc. And maybe I am some of the time. But this is not an easy road. I have mentioned on here before that this is really an emotional and mental struggle. I can handle the physical discomfort with no problem, but it is a daily battle of the mind. I just want to keep it real for you.

    I really desire to wait on my body and trust the Lord's plan. He designed my body to go into labor and we have no reason to think it wont. It has been making steps towards preparation. My cervix is soft and open. Baby is lower. Things are happening.

    But...

    I am 42 weeks pregnant and have no baby. People ask me all day long when this baby is coming. They ask when the doctor will "take" him. They ask if I feel like it will be soon. They ask if I think waiting is safe, etc etc. And it wears on you. Badly.

    1. I have no idea when this baby is coming. I have never done this before. It all rests on me identifying what is going on with my body, and I have no clue how to figure this stuff out. In case you didnt know, your body does all kinds of weird things during pregnancy.

    2. You feel almost as if you are putting people out. They are waiting on you. And when it drags on its like you are just prolonging the attention. It seems like the world is revolving around me. When I go somewhere, all people can talk about is me having a baby. I feel bad, like I am stealing all the attention.

    3. Hearing people tell me they are worried about me or tell me its not safe to go past 42 weeks is draining. Very emotionally draining. I have a great Doctor who is watching us closely and still feels we need to wait. I have read the research and know the percentage of things happening to me or baby because we are over 42 weeks is 0.5%. The risks that come with an induction are actually quite a bit higher than that. But when you hear this a lot, you start to doubt. You start to wonder.

    This has by far been the hardest part. Today I broke down crying asking Mr.Pate the what if's. What if my placenta does stop functioning? What if baby is born stillborn? What if my body wont do this?? What if What if What if.... And the Lord blessed me with an incredible man who held me and reassured me of the Lord's control. We are not in control. We have no reason to think anything is wrong. We are being monitored. And ultimately the Lord is in control.

    I know these truths, but in the midst of this time I can quickly forget. I was a very late baby. And I am fine. I realize now a days most people do not go over 42 weeks so we freak out when they do. But I think this also has to do with how much we push 37 weeks being "full term", so 42 weeks seems sooooo late.

    So I just wanted to share how I am struggling. Most of the time I am feeling good and resolved to trust the Lord and wait for my body. But there are definitely moments throughout each of these days that I let the doubts consume me. I think more than not trusting the Lord, I am really not trusting in my body or my ability to figure out what my body is doing.

    So please pray! Pray for peace and trust. Pray for patience and love for people, they are trying to care for me. Pray for strength and joy throughout this journey. Just please pray!

    Oh and here is a great woman's journey with having her 3rd son at 43 weeks... it has some good info in it too. 


    Sunday, July 10, 2011

    41 Weeks and Counting...



  • How far along: 41 Weeks



  • Total Weight Gained: 34 lbs (started 107, currently 141) 



  • Sleep: Well it was very hard to come by most of the week! The chest pain decided to stay for 5 days straight! So I couldnt sleep laying down hardly at all. But it has subsided finally, and the last two nights I have actually slept pretty well overall. I am waking about every hour but I cant get back to sleep so it could be worse! 



  • Best Moment of the Week:  Playing in the Beech Bend wave pool with Mr.Pate and my nieces. It felt great and was super fun! Also Thursday night we went out to eat, to Starbucks and moseyed around Target, like a date. It was great!    



  • Movement: Still good movement.      



  • Food Cravings: Special K Chocolatey delight and Mr.Pate's smoothies.     



  • Food Aversions: N/A



  • Symptoms: Horrid chest pains that were apparently just pressure from no space, Huffing and puffing, lots of pressure on my lower abdomen and pelvic area, waddling majorly, sore tailbone, tired tired tired, pee all the time... 



  • What I miss: Having a body that didnt feel like it had been completely taken over by an alien! Ha! Walking faster than a snail... 



  • What I'm looking forward to: D-Day (as in delivery day!)! There are no more events and we are all setup, so now it is just a waiting game till Griffin decides it is time to make his debut! 



  • Other news: 

    • Well those that prayed Griffin would wait till Dr.Gass was back have some powerful prayers! ha! He comes back tomorrow, so as long as I dont have Griffin until later tonight then we should be good!
    • It has been a physically hard week. I think he has definitely dropped some bc I am having a hard time walking and he feels so heavy down low! When I stand up, I have to brace myself for a moment before I can begin walking because the muscles are so tight. 
    • It is becoming an emotionally hard time as well. This weekend I have just started to let worrisome thoughts creep in. Everyone worries so much when you go late these days, and I have been letting those "what if's" that could happen take over my thoughts. Mr.Pate is good about encouraging me and keeping me focused, what a blessing. It is also emotionally hard because I feel like understanding what is happening right now is all on me. I am the only one who can feel if I am having contractions, if he is still moving well etc. And its a lot harder figuring out what you are feeling than I thought it would be! Was that a movement or a contractions?? Who knows?? 
    •  I need moment by moment reminders that the Lord is in control, not me, and that He has a plan. I need to trust Him with my whole life, including this uncertain and crazy time. 
    • We sent a team from our church off to Mission Arlington on a mission trip yesterday morning. Dustin was part of that group. So he thinks I should wait till Saturday to have Griffin. Ha! I am not wishing for that. I am sad that Mr.Pate and I couldnt go, because it is an amazing ministry and they are going to love it!! 
    • Phrase said the most often when I walk into a room: "You still havent had that baby?"
  • Gender & Name: It's a Boy! Griffin Alan Pate



  • ***All my pregnancy week by week apps and sites have switched me over to "Your Baby" news and week updates at this point... even though he isnt here yet! Babycenter did have an update, but its a downer about why you shouldnt go past 42 weeks... so we are done with the milestones. 

    Friday, July 8, 2011

    Correction!

    Preggo brain!

    Tomorrow I will be 41 weeks, not 42!! I mistyped earlier- sorry for any scares!




    - Mrs.Pate via my iPhone

    Hello Friday

    ::: My work had a golf tournament today, so I didn't have to go. A whole day at home? Weird!
    ::: I have done two loads of laundry thus far, and hope to do two more.
    ::: I plan on dust mopping and vacuuming the floors. I could do this everyday at my house and it still need it. Love my animals but they are high maintenance!
    ::: Tomorrow I will be 41 weeks. Wow!
    ::: I am asked if I have had a baby about five times an hour...
    ::: So instead it's your turn to answer me please:

    - What do you do for fun on summer nights? (preferably cheaper ideas!)
    - What do you eat for dinner in the summer???




    - Mrs.Pate via my iPhone


    Thursday, July 7, 2011

    How I am Feeling

    I get asked this numerous times an hour now. So here is the update:

    - For the first time in this pregnancy I am definitely uncomfortable. It's a blessing that I have felt so well until now and I can't complain.
    - He must of dropped some, because I now have to pee every ten minutes. And walking around is a weird feeling, the bottom of my bump is heavy.
    - I can barely breathe. This is very tied into the chest pain I am experiencing.
    - I am walking so slowly! Ha!
    - There is no comfortable way to sleep. I can't really lay down, so I am mostly sleeping sitting straight up on the couch.
    - Getting going in the morning is the worst. Every part of my body hurts. But once I have moved around for awhile I feel much better.

    So overall I am uncomfortable. The Lord is letting me understand why so many women are begging for the baby to come out early. I get it. This is not super fun. But it is not unbearable.

    I still want to wait for Griffin to come on his own. I am still praying my body will go into labor naturally and not have to be induced. I am trusting God that ultimately He has a plan for Griffins birth, and I want to just accept whatever that is (even if it's totally different than the natural experience I am hoping for). Is it getting hard to mentally and emotionally cling to this, you bet! But the Lord said we would have many trials while living in this fallen world, and His word is always true.

    "For the joy of the Lord is your strength." Nehemiah 8:10


    - Mrs.Pate via my iPhone

    40 Week OB Appt

    Went back to the doctor yesterday. I had a non-stress test first then saw the doctor. I am just not a fan of the non-stress test at this point. You lay on a bed, and they prefer you to actually lay on your back slightly reclined, and they strap two monitor belts to your belly. One picks up baby's heartbeat and the other picks up your contractions. They usually want you to lay there at least 20 minutes.

    Griffin doesn't like this thing. I think he doesn't like when I am on my back. Anyhow, he moved a lot so she had a hard time getting his heartbeat to pick up consistently at first. To me, it would make more sense to have me lean up or even on all fours, bc gravity would naturally bring baby to the monitor. But what do I know? After she finally got us situated I had to lay there for around 40 minutes. Ugh! With these chest pains, laying down is the worst thing ever! (yes the chest pains continue on, griff has just run out of room)

    Griffin's heartbeat is great, so no worries. I only had two light contractions the whole time. So then it was time to see the doctor. I walked in, and the nurse told me to dress down. I barely had time to before he came rolling in. This doctor was on warp speed and I didn't like it one bit. He quickly checked me (like 2 secs) and said everything was the same. Then he measured me and said Griffin is still growing. He was practically out the door before I could get any questions in- 2 min tops! Ugh! I did manage to ask if Griffin's head was more engaged before he ran out the door. He said yes, but I don't feel like he was so very observant so whatever.

    I hope Griffin waits for Dr.Gass!

    - Mrs.Pate via my iPhone

    Tuesday, July 5, 2011

    My Fourth

    Still no baby, just for the record.

    I had a great weekend though! My family came up and we had a blast. Sunday we swam at the hotel pool. My mom found an inflatable bat and baseball at dollar general, and me, my nieces, my dad, mr.pate and Dustin all played. It was so fun! But I over did it and was hardcore hobbling the next morning. Then we grilled and played the wii (well they did, I conked out).

    Then yesterday we were going to go to Beech Bend park, but the weather wasn't so great so we did a movie instead. Then more swimming. After that we were all going to head to our house to cook dinner. I was there first by myself and the chest pains I had been having off and on came back hardcore. So bad in fact, that when Mr.Pate got there I was double over in pain and crying. It was stabbing pains in my chest that sent shooting pains down my left arm. Ugh!! So we called Dr.Gass and he set us to labor and delivery to get checked out. Happy Fourth of July!

    So we got there and they hooked me up to some monitors and did an EKG. Everything looked great and baby looked great. So it was either heartburn or pressure from me having no more space. They gave me some heartburn medicine and made me rest for awhile. It didn't help. Problem number one- they made me lay on my back, which made it hurt worse. Problem number two- they couldn't fix my problem so we just sat there for no reason.

    The good news of this trip? They had me on a contractions monitor and what I thought was him moving is apparently a contraction. Good to know. This doesn't match anything I have been told they will feel like. When it happened my whole belly was not rock hard, but there was just a part of my belly sticking out. I thought it was griff pushing. Who knows?

    But we went home and I proceeded to have the chest pains for the rest of the night and today. Which to me means it is not heartburn, but is just me running out of space. I didn't sleep at all. Blah! But I went to work today an I am learning to deal with the pain better.

    I mean my child will come sometime soon. I wont feel this forever. The Lord will sustain me. He had a plan for when Griffin should be born, and it will come to pass just as He wants.

    That was our 4th in a nutshell. Tonight we were supposed to go to a 4th party in Smiths Grove, but we ended up staying at Dustins school all night helping him move classrooms. It is making progress.

    Tomorrow I go to the doctor for my weekly checkup. I have a non-stress test (they will put a monitor on to check baby's heartbeat, movement, and contractions) and then I will see Dr. Stice. I'll keep you posted!


    - Mrs.Pate via my iPhone

    Monday, July 4, 2011

    Bradley Birth: Second Stage Labor

    Let's talk about the second stage of labor, shall we?

    Here are just some random things I learned in class about Second Stage Labor. Those that have experienced this, please feel free to add your wisdom. It is so important to remember that no two labors are alike, so take all of this with a grain of salt. This is just info to help you become familiar with the birth process and maybe make you less intimidated by it all.


    Some Definitions:
    • Afterbirth: The birth of the placenta and membranes after the birth
    • Episiotomy: Surgical incision made in the perineum (the skin and tissues between the vagina and anus) to "prevent tearing"
    • Cord Clamping: Clamping down on the Umbilical cord to stop the flow of blood and oxygen from the mom to baby so you can cut the cord. The baby then starts breathing on its own for the first time. 
    • Ferguson Reflex: When baby presses onto the Ferguson Plexus of nerves, creating Ferguson's reflex, the urge to push
    The Second Stage of Labor is when you are ready to push. At this point you are fully dilated (10cm) and fully effaced (100%), which means the cervix is completely thinned and open and ready to let baby out. Baby has descended down the birth canal and is ready to emerge. Some women will feel what is called an urge to push. This is generally caused by the baby pressed onto the Ferguson Plexus of nerves, creating Ferguson's reflex, the urge to push. It is important to note that some women may have a break between becoming completely dilated and feeling the urge to push (this urge feels the same as when you have to "go"). Baby may be getting into a better position. So use this time to rest and get ready for the next stage. 

    Upright positioning is usually favorable for the second stage, allowing gravity to assist the mother. There are numerous positions available in modern birth beds, including the squat bar, and foot pedals.

    Out of bed positions are wonderful and becoming more popular, particularly for women having trouble pushing in the bed. Including:

    Squatting (Opens the pelvic outlet an additional 10%)
    Birth Stools
    Birth Balls
    Water Pools
    Birth Chair
    Dangling
    Toilet
    Side lying positions are used to slow down a very rapid labor and are great for protecting the perineum during a rapid birth.

    Semi-reclined, or laying on your back with stirrups are still very common in many hospitals, particularly if you have regional anesthesia, or will be having a forceps or vacuum delivery. This position does not use gravity and increases the length of the pushing stage and increases the use of episiotomy, vacuum extraction, and forceps. You can request a different position.

    I would recommend googling "pushing positions for labor" or "positions for second stage labor" to get other ideas. Because all we ever see in movies and mostly in real life is women laying on their backs in the bed, it is hard to figure out what else you could do. 

    When you are asked to hold your breath to a count of ten, numerous times during one contractions, we call this purple pushing. Purple pushing came into play as the epidural rates increased and women never got an urge to bear down. We now extend it to nearly everyone having a baby.

    The options are:

    Laboring Down: Allowing your body to push the baby out on its own. Not really assisting the pushing efforts of the uterus, unless you have an overwhelming urge to push. This is particularly useful for women with epidurals because then they are not pushing against a baby who is still in a malpresentation.

    Spontaneous Bearing Down (Positive Pushing): Allowing your body to tell you when to push. When this technique is used we never find mom holding her breath more than about 6 seconds, allowing more oxygen for the baby.

    Bradley definitely recommends positive pushing so you are working with your body and contractions to be more effective. 

    When baby's head crowns, some people experience the "ring of fire", which is a burning sensation. After baby's head is through the rest of pushing is generally much easier. 

    Once the baby is born, the doctors will probably suction out their mouth and cut the cord. You have the option to cut immediately or wait for the cord to stop pulsing. (If baby is having any issues, they will cut immediately so they can move baby to the NICU station and tend to the issues.) Reasons to wait for the pulsing to stop would be that baby is getting the last bit of blood that was intended for them, they are still get oxygen from mom for a moment, and studies have shown the stem cells in the cord (ie why we cord bank now) can protect against lots of crazy sickness. You can ask that baby is immediately laid on mom to do skin to skin at this point (bonding of mom and baby skin to skin, which helps baby regulate their blood temp). 


    After this comes the birthing of the placenta. Some call this the third stage. It is when the placenta separates from the wall of the uterus, and is delivered through the vaginal canal. You will still be having contractions at this time, but they are much less intense than before. For some women, they’re still strong enough that it helps to use labor breathing techniques to cope with the discomfort of these contractions.  Some women are so enraptured with the baby that they barely notice the cramping. Your caregiver may ask you to push a few times to deliver the placenta. Again, this pushing is less intense than the delivery of the baby. Third stage usually lasts ten to thirty minutes. If it lasts longer than this, you may be given Pitocin to increase contractions to encourage the delivery of the placenta, and help the uterus to begin involution (shrinking back down to the non-pregnant size.) During third stage is also the time when your caregiver will clean your genital area, examine your perineum, and will stitch up your perineum if you’ve torn or had an episiotomy. A local anesthetic is used if you haven’t had an epidural. In this period after birth, most of the parents’ attention centers on the baby, and not so much on the final stage of labor. In the first hour after birth, you will want to begin breastfeeding.


    Ok moms that have been through this- what else can you share with us who haven't??

    Bradley Birth: First Stage Labor

    Let's talk about the first stage of labor, shall we?

    Here are just some random things I learned in class about First Stage Labor. Those that have experienced this, please feel free to add your wisdom. It is so important to remember that no two labors are alike, so take all of this with a grain of salt. This is just info to help you become familiar with the birth process and maybe make you less intimidated by it all.

    Some definitions:

    - Anterior Presentation: this is when baby is facing the back of mom, and it's the most common and easiest to deliver (its what you want)
    - Cervix: this is the neck of the uterus and at the lower end of it
    - Dilation: the opening of the cervix, which they measure in cm
    - Effacement: the thinning of the cervix, which they tell you in percentages

    So first stage labor is when labor starts until you are ready to start pushing baby out. To prepare for labor, your body may have Braxton-Hicks contractions (practice contractions), softening of the cervix, loss of the mucous plug, etc. If you are unsure if this is real labor or pre-labor, then when you get contractions do these five things: eat, drink, walk, shower and nap. If the contractions continue on after these things then this is the real deal baby.

    Once early labor begins, your uterus starts contracting. This could happen before or after your water breaks (for some women, their water never breaks on its own). When the uterus contracts, it tips forward. This is why laboring by laying on your back is supposed to be so painful, because gravity is pulling the uterus back down and causing a great deal of pain.

    Today, we tend to focus on the vaginal exams to see how we are progressing during first stage. But watching the outward signs can be very helpful as well. A woman will go from being able to talk during contractions and being a very busy body, to a very inward focus where she doesn't seem to notice all that is going on around her. This is a sign that labor is progressing well. Also, the further labor gets the more modesty a woman loses. Another good outward indicator that things are moving along. Most women are hungry during the early labor and then not hungry later on.

    Just before pushing, most women go through transition (but not all). Transition can suddenly change how the woman is feeling drastically. Suddenly she is defeated and saying she cant do this, talking irrationally and possibly very irritable. This is a good sign that pushing is very close! Transition is generally the hardest part of First Stage, but it usually does not last long. This is where she will need a coach who believes in her and can encourage her the most.

    Things Bradley Classes commend you do to cope with First Stage:

    • Change positions often! Try to get in positions that help gravity, so try not to lay on your back! Sit on a birth ball, sit leaning forward in the bed, get on hands and knees, squat, walk, lean over a chair, etc. 
    • Urinate often! This will alleviate discomfort and wont hinder baby from coming down the birth canal. 
    • Eat and Drink as needed. Not some big fatty meal, but small things that can give you some much needed energy. 
    • Dim the lights so you can concentrate. 
    • Abdominal breathing- not chest breathing. Deep breaths will calm you and short breaths will make you feel anxious. 
    • Shower. This helps with the pain. 
    • Try not to tense up! When a contraction comes on, try hard to relax all other muscles in your body. Tensing up makes the pain worse throughout. Having a coach that can look for tense muscles and gently remind you to relax will help.
    • Do not get caught up on numbers. So much of birth is a mental thing. Dilation does not happen in a regularly scheduled pattern ( a 1cm an hour or something). Your body can go from 2 cm to 10 cm in 5 minutes if it wants to. So focus on these other things and believe your body knows what its doing. 
    • Have a birth plan. This will help you remain focused during this time. To see ours, click here. (If you have any questions about ours, just let me know). Your birth plan can be very simple or complex. But having it will enable you to focus on the task at hand and not have to make decisions on the fly. Just google birth plan and you will get all kinds of info on this. 
    So, current moms- what else should be know about First Stage Labor? 

    Ill be back soon to discuss Second Stage Labor, which includes pushing baby out and delivering the placenta (yes you have to do this too and no one tells you about it!). 



    - Mrs.Pate via my iPhone

    Sunday, July 3, 2011

    40 Weeks and Counting...



  • How far along: 40 Weeks

  • Total Weight Gained: 33 lbs (started 107, currently 140) 

  • Sleep: The last few nights have been very rough! I cant sleep on my left side or back without getting this weird chest pain, so I have been sleeping on my right side until I cant take it anymore then sleeping sitting up. Fun! 

  • Best Moment of the Week:  Making it to 40 weeks! I know due dates can be off, but I think ours is probably pretty close (now whether he wants to come close to it is a different story). All along I said I really wanted him to stay in for at least 40 weeks to fully develop, and I am overjoyed that he did!   

  • Movement: Yes yes, little Griffin is still moving often. He moves all day, but typically when I lay down he kinda goes nuts! Ha!     

  • Food Cravings: N/A    

  • Food Aversions: N/A

  • Symptoms: Huffing and puffing, cannot bend over, waddling majorly, sore tailbone, tired tired tired, pee all the time, hardening of the stomach, lower back pain ... 

  • What I miss: Being able to bend over & breathe! Ha!

  • What I'm looking forward to: D-Day (as in delivery day!)! There are no more events and we are all setup, so now it is just a waiting game till Griffin decides it is time to make his debut! 

  • Other news: 

    • My due date has officially come and gone... and I am not gonna lie- I struggled yesterday. I do not know if it was just the anxiousness of knowing it was the "date" or because I wasnt feeling so great, but I did not like most of yesterday. It was just mentally and emotionally hard. I lost a lot of resolve and was just moping around wishing baby would come out. Mr.Pate was like, "What in the world? Yesterday you were fine to go another 2 weeks?!" And he was right. I am feeling back to normal mostly today. I still cant sleep on my left side, but if I have to deal with that for 2 weeks or so then it wont be the worst thing in the world. I think it was also because I didnt have much to do, so it just drug by. But by the afternoon we went and did stuff and went to a friends house and that helped a ton! 
    • As for labor signs, my belly is still randomly hardening up. But it is very sporadic and not something worth timing at this point. And I still dont feel it on the inside either. My lower back has been on and off achy, but again not in a consistent pattern. I'll keep you posted, dont worry! 
    • We got Mr.Pate a new grill yesterday! Yay! We have been planning to buy him one since Spring, but he was just slow about it. Well it turns out that was a good thing bc we ended up getting the one he wanted like $150 cheaper than its regular price. Woo Hoo! Our grill was pretty shot, so I am glad we got this one. I love when we grill, and I told him that before Baby came we needed a dependable one bc I sure wasnt going to be cooking! Ha! 
    • We hung out with the Winkler's last night, and that was very encouraging! Yay for last minute plans!
    • My family is coming up today & tomorrow to hangout and celebrate summer! We are just going to be swimming and maybe going to Beach Bend Park! Yay!!! It will be the first "Summery" activity we have done all summer. 
    • I have been reviewing notes and reading a book called "Active Birth" this week. I highly recommend it. I will try to get some main points and tips blogged soon. 
    • So we are basically rooting for Griffin to either come out today or tomorrow, or wait until next Monday the 11th, because Dr.Gass leaves on the 5th and gets back on the 11th! Pray for that! 
  • Gender & Name: It's a Boy! Griffin Alan Pate



  • Milestones:
    According to Babycenter.com :  It's hard to say for sure how big your baby will be, but the average newborn weighs about 7 1/2 pounds (a small pumpkin) and is about 20 inches long. His skull bones are not yet fused, which allows them to overlap a bit if it's a snug fit through the birth canal during labor. This so-called "molding" is the reason your baby's noggin may look a little conehead-ish after birth. Rest assured — it's normal and temporary.



    Thursday, June 30, 2011

    Bradley Birth: A few labor tips

    Warning: This post contains some "gross" topics or facts concerning labor. If you dont want to hear about specific bodily details, then dont read! Now dont say I didnt warn you...


    One article we got during my Bradley class was focused on teaching you to notice outward signs of how far dilated you are without doing a vaginal exam. Allowing too many vaginal exams can really discourage a laboring mom (what I am not past 4 yet??!!) and invite bacteria in each time. 

    So here are some tips it gives on how to assess the progress you are making during labor:

    1. Sound: During early labor, you can still talk normally and chat in between contractions. Once active labor starts, you probably wont talk during contractions and seem in your own world in between as well. Once you get to transition, you will completely be in your own world and oblivious to those around you. This means you are about to start pushing. 

    2. Smell: There is a smell that comes around the end of dilation. It is a mix between mown hay, semen, and dampness. 

    3. Irrationality: This is a sign of hitting transition. You will begin saying things that make no sense or are the exact opposite of what you were saying. Its a good sign that you will be pushing soon. 

    4. Feel: When your uterus starts thinning and dilating, the muscles of the uterus bunch up at the top of it. During a contraction, at the beginning of labor, check how many fingers you can fit between the fundus (top of the bump) and the bra line- you will prob be able to fit 5 fingers. When you can fit 3 fingers head to the hospital, you are prob 5 cm dilated. And at 1 finger you are fully dilated. 

    5. Look: There is a shadow that extends from the anus up towards the back along the crease of the buttocks, which is called the 'bottom line'. It begins at 1 cm and lengthens to 10cm, and its length coordinates with cervical dilation. 

    6. Gooey Stuff: The bloody show. (This is different than the mucus plug.) Usually this happens around 2-3 cm dilated and then a 2nd time around 8 cm dilated. It is up to a couple tablespoons in quantity, and can be clear but is usually streaked with pink, brown, or bright blood. The 2nd show means labor is very near. 

    7. Opening of the Back: This is the spot above the tailbone and it will bulge out just before pushing. 

    So there are some ways you can try to assess how your labor is going. Do not get caught up on numbers but instead look for other signs that your body is doing what it needs to do to get that baby safely out! 


    Sunday, June 26, 2011

    39 Weeks and Counting...



    • How far along: 39 Weeks
    • Total Weight Gained: 34 lbs (started 107, currently 141) 
    • Sleep: Doing ok. I am really tired and can fall sleep in a moments notice! But I still wake up numerous times a night...  
    • Best Moment of the Week:  Probably Monday night. It was just great quality time with my Pate boys. We put up the clothes line and hung our diapers for the first time, Whitney brought us a yummy dinner, and we went to Wal-mart to pick out paint for Dustin's new classroom. It was laid back and fun.  
    • Movement: Yes yes, little Griffin is still moving often. He moves all day, but typically when I lay down he kinda goes nuts! Ha!     
    • Food Cravings: Not much this week. I had a weird and unhealthy eating week. Ick.    
    • Food Aversions: N/A
    • Symptoms: Huffing and puffing, cannot bend over, waddling majorly, sore tailbone, tired tired tired, pee all the time... 
    • What I miss: Being able to bend over! Ha!
    • What I'm looking forward to: D-Day (as in delivery day!)! There are no more events and we are all setup, so now it is just a waiting game till Griffin decides it is time to make his debut! 
    • Other news: 
      • We got the clothesline put up and the diapers are now prepped and ready to go!
      • We had a Starbucks Shower at Yuki (a sushi place in town) and it was so fun! Thanks guys!
      • It is VBS time at church. We have VBS Monday-Thursday of this week, so we have been gearing up and decorating for that. This year I am not teaching or leading anything and it has been kinda strange. But I am looking forward to it!
      • Last week I had a movie night with Gary and Becky and it was wonderful! We watched Harry Potter: The Deathly Hollows Part 1, and man does that thing end abruptly! Glad I didn't see it last year and have to wait a whole year to see the rest! It was a really good time chilling and catching up with them. Now that we have everything ready I feel like I can just use this waiting time to spend quality time with friends and family, and thats a blessing!
      • I am just now starting to review my labor notes from class (just in time right?) and I am hoping to do some posts on that this week. 
      • I have some of the baby book planned and printed so now I just need to put it together. Maybe that will get done this week?? But with VBS I am not so sure.
      • I am still not sick of being pregnant. Things are definitely more difficult to do (I am slower) but not uncomfortable. It is difficult getting used to everyone looking t you like you are miserable and having to constantly answer if you are so over being pregnant. I love it. It is the neatest experience ever. I am still a week out from my due date, but people are treating me like we are 2 weeks overdue. I am trying to just smile and move on, but it is gettin on my nerves! Ha! I know they mean well though! 
      • Everyone that sees me in person thinks my belly is really big. One friend told me it looks way bigger than in the photos. It feels the same to me though!
    • Gender & Name: It's a Boy! Griffin Alan Pate


    Milestones:
    According to Babycenter.com : Your baby's waiting to greet the world! He continues to build a layer of fat to help control his body temperature after birth, but it's likely he already measures about 20 inches and weighs a bit over 7 pounds, a mini watermelon. (Boys tend to be slightly heavier than girls.) The outer layers of his skin are sloughing off as new skin forms underneath.


    Wow, 39 Weeks! This time has just really flown by! I cant believe he will be here so soon!

    Sunday, June 19, 2011

    38 Weeks and Counting....



    • How far along: 38 Weeks
    • Total Weight Gained: 35 lbs (started 107, currently 142) 
    • Sleep: Doing ok. I am really tired and can fall sleep in a moments notice! But I still wake up numerous times a night...  
    • Best Moment of the Week:  This weekend Mr.Pate and I got to spend lots of time together just enjoying each other and finishing up last minute things. It was nice to get the time together, because I know it is going to be way different very soon! 
    • Movement: Yes still lots of it. He constantly pushes out and has hiccups often. When I lay down my belly has waves going on and he likes to move his head too- which is a weird weird feeling.     
    • Food Cravings: All along I have said I didnt really have any, but I guess I have had a few things I have definitely wanted more than others all along: tacos, salmon, mac n cheese, pep hot chocolates from starbucks, ranch burgers and mandarin oranges. And last weekend I actually had a craving for a blizzard! Which I havent had in forever, so we went and got some. It wasnt as good as I was hoping, but oh well.   
    • Food Aversions: N/A
    • Symptoms: Cant breath, tire very easily, waddling, sore tailbone, pee a lot... 
    • What I miss: Being able to bend over! Ha!
    • What I'm looking forward to: Meeting our baby! And this week is a Starbucks Party for us! Yay! 
    • Other news: 
      • We definitely had a productive week around here. We got everything but the clothesline done, and if the weather would cooperate it would be done too! Though there are still little things to do, it feels so weird knowing that we are ready and the baby could come anytime. It may be today and it may be 3 weeks from now. We are hoping for later instead of sooner just so we get everything done and he has the most time to develop and grow in there. 
      • It is sooo strange and kinda sad to think about not being pregnant anymore. I have loved this experience so much. It has been a sweet time for me and Mr.Pate to bond over the preparation of a child, without dealing with the reality of it 24/7. And that is son to change. I am so excited to meet our child and start that journey, but there is a part of me that is mourning the end of such a sweet phase of our lives. It will be sad to not be able to feel Griffin pushing me anymore, because that is such a neat and special thing that only I get to feel. He is soooo easy to take care of right now : ) and that will soon change too. The reality is setting in and I am both soooo excited I cant stand it and sad about the changes. Maybe Ill blog more on that later. 
      • Anyhow, things seem to be progressing. I wasn't sure I was going to share this, and if you are a boy or dont want grosser details stop reading right now! I lost my mucus plug last week. That means that my cervix is opening up and can no longer hold it in. So its a good thing. But it could mean labor tomorrow or 3 weeks from now! ha! I am encouraged to know that my body is getting ready and I feel confident it knows what it is doing. We just need to be patient for Griffin to come on his own time. I haven't experienced any contractions that I was aware of, but I am dilated and effaced so Dr.Gass says I have obviously been having some. Interesting. 
      • I went to the Thyroid Doctor this week and everything is right on track, so thats good news! I have been surprised with how well keeping my thyroid levels stabilized during this process has been. I am attributing (my dr is too) most of it to continuing to be active and eat healthy. Woo Hoo!
      • I also went to a breastfeeding class Tuesday night with my momma! It was good and very informative. I am praying that nursing goes smoothly- please do the same! 
      • This week I am hoping to get the diapers prepped, a baby book started, and review my labor notes from class. 
      • I am still working. I plan to work until I have Griffin, so I can use all of my time off with him. And even though I love my job, I am over working everyday! I want so badly to just sit in a pool all day and sleep! Ha! 
    • Gender & Name: It's a Boy! Griffin Alan Pate


    Milestones:
    According to Babycenter.com : Your baby has really plumped up. She weighs about 6.8 pounds and she's over 19 1/2 inches long (like a leek). She has a firm grasp, which you'll soon be able to test when you hold her hand for the first time! Her organs have matured and are ready for life outside the womb.
    Wondering what color your baby's eyes will be? You may not be able to tell right away. If she's born with brown eyes, they'll likely stay brown. If she's born with steel gray or dark blue eyes, they may stay gray or blue or turn green, hazel, or brown by the time she's 9 months old. That's because a child's irises (the colored part of the eye) may gain more pigment in the months after she's born, but they usually won't get "lighter" or more blue. (Green, hazel, and brown eyes have more pigment than gray or blue eyes.)